Dear Mr. Cosby,
Alphonso loves Jack Daniels and women. It is a combination that has caused, shall we say, interesting situations.
Alphonso has 2 children by his ex-wife. The older child seems to have taken the most negative aspects of Alphonso's behavior and turned them into life lessons on how not to behave and not what to do. The younger child, daddy's girl, has suffered the most from Aphonso's irresponsible behavior. (She has also suffered from her mother's irresponsible behavior, but that's another letter).
When Alphonso and his wife were together, the younger child was daddy's girl. Even though Alphonso cheated on his wife, stayed out at night, and drank too much, the younger child was still daddy's girl. When Alphonso and his wife split, drinking and women comprised more of Alphonso's time.
While we tried to get Alphonso to calm down, the younger child seemed to take things in stride until she became a teenager. One day I saw her and her mother after I had not seem them for awhile. I said to her mother that the girl was cute just like her, and just like her, she has a phat butt.
Her mother's response was to agree and then chime in that the daughter is now smelling herself. I talked to the daughter for a bit and realized right away that she was headed for dangerous waters.
I contacted Alphonso and told him in no uncertain terms that he needed to take time with his daughter because she is looking like a woman. I told her to remember when we would talk about how the young girls looked older but something always gave their age away. I told him to remember how some of the other "men" we knew didn't care about age. If the girl was willing, they would "hit it." I told him that those same men are going to see his daughter, with her phat butt, and take advantage of the situation.
He got mad at me for mentioning her attributes, but I told him I didn't care if he stayed mad at me or not, as long as he took time for his daughter because, as I knew and pointed out to him, she, like my daughter, really needs him now.
Unfortunately, he didn't listen. His daughter, a very smart girl who always did well in school, started skipping class, acting out, and disrespecting adults. (Why should she respect adults when her father was a drunk and her mother was out there as well?)
Family members stepped in to help her out but it didn't seem to matter. Another friend of ours asked her mother to give him guardianship so he could move her out of the city and into a more rural area. The mother signed the papers. Alphonso said he would sign and then changed his mind and refused. He took his daughter.
However, Alphonso didn't change his ways even with his daughter living with him.
Then, as a few of us predicted, that older "man" who didn't care about age, entered the daughter's life.
When a few of us found out, "the uncles" decided to this "man" to let him know that "our niece" was under age. Unfortunately, or fortunately depending upon how you look at it, Alphonso called us and told us to forget the visit because statutory rape charges were filed.
She is still a work in progress but she may be coming around. Please pray for her because she is a good kid and has great potential.
Mr. Cosby, as I wrote before, he wasn't at your talk when you visited his city. Even if he was at your talk, why should he listen to you when he won't listen to us.
What should we do?